The vocabulary of the method

• Dismissive-avoidant attachment — Dismissive-avoidant attachment explained by breakup coach Benny Lichtenwalner: a style that handles stress by going cold and cutting off access to feelings, not the feelings themselves. How to spot it in an ex, how it differs from other styles, and what it means for reconnecting.
• Fearful-avoidant attachment — Fearful-avoidant attachment means craving closeness while fearing it: the push-pull style. Breakup coach Benny Lichtenwalner defines the term, shows how a fearful-avoidant ex behaves after a breakup, and how it differs from dismissive-avoidant and anxious styles.
• Feigned indifference — Definition of feigned indifference in Benny Lichtenwalner's method: an ex's performed not-caring that masks suppressed feeling. How to tell it from genuine indifference on the investment ladder, why avoidant exes wear it, and why faking it back doesn't work.
• Temperature check — Definition of a temperature check in Benny Lichtenwalner's Five Rules method: any question that probes an ex's feelings ('where's your head at?'). Why it collapses attraction, what it sounds like in real texts, and what to do instead.
• The Investment Ladder — Definition of the investment ladder in Benny Lichtenwalner's Five Rules method: a five-rung scale (Cold to Pulling) that reads an ex's engagement from message length, questions, and volunteered availability, so you know exactly when it's safe to ask for the next date.